Four Tips for Getting the Most Out of Your Relationship in 2022
Over the last two years COVID has presented new challenges to people in relationships. It has been difficult, at times, to feel connected to other people and your relationship may have suffered as a result. As we enter 2022 it is important to start the year with a positive attitude - to work actively towards getting as much as possible out of your relationship. This blog post walks you through five ways you can do that over the next year.
Whether lockdown forced couples apart or caused them to spend every day together, communication often became difficult and, as any couples counsellor advise, communication is the most important aspect of a relationship. If you cannot clearly and consistently say how you are feeling to your partner little issues may develop and, over time, snowball into something bigger leading to a sense of distance between the two of you. Being honest - even if what you say is difficult to hear - is always better than keeping feelings bottled up.
Good communication is not just being able to voice your feelings to your partner. Learning to really listen to what your partner says is just as important. There is a big difference between hearing what your partner says and truly listening to him/her. This means not just waiting for your turn to speak but instead paying close attention to the words they say. Repeat what they say back to them. Ask for clarification wherever needed. Doing this every day will naturally bring you much closer together.
Set Intentions With Your Partner
In life intention is absolutely essential. If you wake up in the morning and actively set an intention it is likely you will have a more fulfilling, enjoyable day than if you stumble out of bed and make things up as you go along. The same logic applies in relationships. Discuss with your partner what you want to get out of each day. If you are going on a trip together, talk about what you both want from that time away. This involves setting up structures to support your intentions and knowing how you are going to handle it when there’s some kind of disagreement or conflict. By doing this you are loving each other and being with each other intentionally which makes for a far more meaningful bond.
Do the Little Things
Over time, it is common for couples to forget about the small acts of service - making your partner a cup of tea, recording their favourite TV programme etc. - these acts are an important foundation for a loving relationship. Even if they are essentially mundane doing mini tasks that your partner wants you to do, without them needing to remind you, is a powerful way of telling him/her that you care. If you both do this for each other you will also naturally say ‘thank you’ a lot more. This form of ongoing active appreciation of the other person fosters a more caring and closer relationship.
I am here to help couples improve communication and enjoy their relationship to the fullest through bespoke couples counselling in Farnham. If you would like to know more about how I work, please get in touch.
Imogen G. Ellis-Jones
Couples Counsellor & Supervisor